It is hard to make friends as you get older…

It is hard to make friends as you get older…

I know personally that I can be surrounded by loads of people and yet still experience loneliness – and I also know that surrounding myself with like-minded people, removes those feelings and feeds my sense of belonging.

How do I do that?

The French have a saying – ‘elle va bein dans sa peau’ – she goes well in her own skin, and after a few decades of not feeling comfortable in my own skin, I wanted some of that congruency.

I took a massive deep breath in and had a good look at myself; What did I value? What interested me? What abilities did I have to share?

Then I asked myself where are those me too peeps hanging out?

I was so pleased when I looked up and found that in my run group are beekeepers. In my beekeeping group are Toastmasters. In my Toastmasters group are run group buddies.

The other groups, the ones I felt disconnected to, yet still found myself knocking on the door too although no one was ever home, contributing to my evidence pile of loneliness…they drifted off my radar.

Groups across the world thrive because of our innate need for social inclusion with like-minded peeps – even solo activities have a membership component.

But, it’s all well and good to identify whom you’d like to hang out with, but what if …

This is the brave, vulnerable bit – 🚀

BUT… Whatever you say after the BUT will rule your world, sending your desires to the background and are often imagined outcomes based on a few previous similar experiences – but I’m worried I’ll be ignored…but I’m not confident…but what if no one talks to me…but what if nothing changes…

😥I’d like to meet people, but I’m worried no one will like me.

🤔I am worried no one will talk to me, but I’m really keen to meet people to contribute and share my values, interests and abilities.

🎯I am really keen to meet people and share my values, interests and abilities.

When you know who you are and value, when you’re ‘elle va bein dans sa peau’, your environment and behaviour follow the same path.

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Penni is an experienced business manager, internationally recognised lifestyle, food and wellness coach, Mental health first aider, Mindfulness coach and Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner (NLP), with creative program and session design, Penni brings health & wellbeing (awareness and behaviour change) to workplaces that encourage and support participants to change the way they think and participate in life; to experience today while looking forward to their future.

They are hands-on and experimental for adult learning, bringing a practical element to evidence-informed literature, resulting in reduced sick leave and wage costs, and a more supported, satisfied and productive teams of staff.

Adopting the Trans Theoretical Model of Change (TMM) for individual behaviour change, the programs, workshops and campaigns are created to address either the awareness, behaviour change or maintenance stages of change. 

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